Posts Tagged ‘Autism’
We are. Each and every one of us. It is the essential ingredient in the human condition. We are ruled and driven by our own unique central nervous system and what it is or is not capable of. How our brains work in conjunction with it or battle against it. We as people are akin to electrical snowflakes traveling varied environments we sometimes, breeze through, clash with or melt in. There you have it~ the basis for all behavior. The ABC’s of it. Seems simple, right?
Uniquely crafted to experience the world differently
Not so. Just ask a “behaviorist” they have a whole alphabet of labels for us!! First of all, people are very unaware of their own central nervous systems and how they should be cherished, studied, understood and protected. We are taught that our bodies are “our temples” without much explanation of just what that entails. Our bodies are our circuit boards that channel and guide the energies God has given us genetically. We all have an infrastructure for these energy codes to travel on. This is where the sameness ends. With differing levels and codes of energy our electric snowflakes swirl but, swirl differently! How our unique energy codes are able to travel and navigate this central nervous system, or HWY Infrastructure is where we need to focus our attention and acceptance. Promoting understanding of how we are ALL swirling the same and differently at the same time. Just as it should be.
So many paths of connectivity.OUR AutismHWY in L.A. California.
Understanding the different HWYS of navigation each person needs to utilize. How one needs to travel in life to feel comfortable and safe. What each persons strengths and limitations are. Anyone that drives can understand that analogy. We all have ways that are uniquely comfortable and familiar to us. Ways we travel to seek our own personal success and freedom. Unique as we are we all want the same outcome for the most part. To feel happy and safe within our families, within our communities, within our world. To further feel as if we contribute to that happiness by creating our own self esteem and human worth no matter the differences.
This system we are blessed with drives these electrical signals to our structures informing us how to behave, how to ‘feel it.’ If we all behave and ‘feel it’ differently that helps us realize we all experience life on varying degrees and differing levels. Nerves and neurons (HWYS and vehicles) constantly driving us to where we are going. What we all need to do is take a long look at our unique mapping and the ways we all travel on our individual systems. Our delicate infrastructures and what they will support. More importantly what they will not support. They definitely DO NOT support every one of us driving on the same road in the same direction at the same time. We need to understand that more fully and celebrate this divergence of humanity. Be accepting of this simple truth and stop demanding that people experience the world as you do. All people have unique and valid differences. These differences deserve understanding, recognition and respect. Despite labels placed on people like high or low functioning that can constantly be re-shaped and transcended. Allow yourself and allow others the dignity of being as they are. Allow people to “feel it” and evolve as they were born to.
PLAIN and SIMPLY, diverse reactions and feelings should be considered the “norm.”
Tags: Autism, autismhwy, celebrate diversity, central nervous system, electrical snowflake
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A very valid LIFE~ Alex Spourdalakis.
A 14 yr. old Autistic teen has been murdered again. Many in the community have been sick about it all day as one by one we came to the realization that this poor boy’s story had been chronicled earlier this spring. His struggles within his system, his families struggle with the myriad of doctors, organizations and hospitals. Struggling for the care he needed to feel okay in this world. To find “his chemistry”and balance out his Autistic system. When a person has no verbal communication skills and is in undescribable physical and emotional distress. A lot of scary things can happen…but resorting to MURDER?
For those of you unaware of Alex Spourdalakis. Some of the tragic back story can be read here:
and sadly HERE:
No one can ever work toward making Alex comfortable again. No chance for him to look up into the sky at the sun and feel the beautiful breezes of this world. That is wrong. Plain and simply wrong. Yet, the news stories do not reflect that. INSTEAD we hear all about the care-givers that were over-burdened by the conditions under which they were living. The first reaction seems to be pity for the care-givers. What is wrong with that scenario? Alex is gone. There are no shots at happiness left for him. Who cares about the care-givers that planned his demise up to 1 week in advance (as we are now being told). Alex is not the first or last Autistic or differently abled person to be “set-free” by care-givers. This is a sad and sick phenomenon that has always happened while others look away. Time to STOP averting your souls and pay attention.
PLAIN and SIMPLE.
What do people deserve?
Who decides? In my fifty years on the planet I have seen that concept decay. I was brought up to believe that being a hard-working, helpful and happy person will bring you the good things. The things “you deserve,” the things you need. You will have scrapes and scuffles and things won’t always be easy…but, persevere with a smile and you will get what you need in life. That IS life. In today’s world that concept seems lost. People huff and puff and pound there chest about what they deserve, as they step on those around them whilst grabbing”it.” The world has become a very me oriented and selfish place. Life should be wonderful and I should have all of the perks no matter what I do or don’t do! Most importantly, it should be easy and trouble free. Entitlement.
In that same vein…some have decided “others” are not entitled. Like young Alex Spourdalakis. Judging by the things I have read and seen some have determined that Alex would still be alive had the “system” not failed him. Had his mother been given the “supports” she needed. WHAT?
The ‘system’ that failed him was his preeminent source. His Mother. She is the one that seeks out the formula for Alex’s comfort levels as a “severely Autistic”individual. It is a complicated task, I know I travel that HWY everyday with a growing 14 yr. old “severely” Autistic teen. Dorothy Spourdalakis decided that he deserved death. When is it ever appropriate for one human to decide another’s mortality? Never. There are no qualifying answers OR mitigating circumstances. Just stop trying to pretend there are.
Alex deserved LIFE…like all of the rest of us. He deserved a chance to find the correct chemistry to help relieve some of the compromises to his Autistic system. That can never happen now. Some people now seem to be politicizing this by making it about “the failing system” and lack of supports and services for families. Yes, we need more comprehension in society toward Autism and all that, THAT entails. (pretty much the focus of this entire website!) What we don’t need is sympathy and pity. Especially for someone like Alex’s Mom, a mom too tired to persevere. Someone all too willing to make a decision she had NO RIGHTS to!
Alex dies in vain IF society does not realize how cruel and insipid it is to torture a culture of brilliant Autistic people by excusing and sympathizing with the people that murder them.
UPDATE SEPTEMBER 1ST. Apparently no one is listening and SYMPATHY for those THAT KILL is only gearing up. CBS This Morning should be ashamed of this NEWS STORY:
Tags: alex spourdalakis, Autism, care-givers murdering, dorothy spordalakis
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….Weiner, Schwarzenegger, Spitzer, Edwards !? NOT! What are our ‘role models’ ~coming to…Ooops. BAD PUN! Sorry folks, this is a family AUTISM~FRIENDLY website ! I just have to seriously question the “social skills “of more and more Neuro-typicals. In positions of power or not. People are people. The longer I live the more and more that becomes crystal clear. As humans we put people on pedestals. These undeservered pinnacles. Idolized and fantasized. Made into perfection, “socially” and morally. A certain subset transported and morphed into powerful specimens. Propped up icons, if you will.
The 1st problem with this equation is that pesky “P-word” P E R F E C T I O N. I have said it before and I will say it again simply unattainable. Let that helium balloon go folks. You will feel a big weight dropping off of your shoulders. We are all human and we all lack social graces at times. Especially when it comes to opening our minds to embracing imperfection in ourselves and others. Imperfection in all of it’s brilliant humanity. Why do we believe that the value of a person can be quantified against the value of another? Prettiest, Smartest, Hippest, most Perfect… what else…hmmm…most Egotistical? Can’t we just agree all people are amazing creatures of earth?
Why do people pedestal prop others, then sit in judgement when said icon shows their humanity in all its glory? Constantly idolizing percieved perfections and social superiority without careful consideration is assinine. Yet, it’s done all day, every day backed by dollars flowing through a wind tunnel of insanity. The “3 pronged” trillion dollar deficits… financially, socially and morally. It’s a feeding frenzy that tells me it is time to go back to basics. Understanding the human psyche. The way Autism focuses your knowledge of the brain. Understanding, how our brain dictates why we do what we do. Funny, the lessons mankind has forgotten to teach ITSELF. Well, don’t fret, AUTISM is here!
So, haha how IRONIC!! The population of people supposedly so socially inept have taught an army of us a new insight. A NEW Insight we can teach others to realize how silly it is to have every bit of your feelings and /or emotions tied to your thinking. More than likely causing your social life stress and anxiety. Highly emotional thinking. What’s the point of it anyway? Oh yeah, it is keeping ‘Reality TV’ cranked on high and those big buck$ rolling in. The studios love it. Are these socially rude and impudent reality stars recieving millions for…rescuing humanity? Setting social skill standards and trends for the rest of us? Such scary contemplations.
That is why I will keep fighting the Brain-styles Awareness ’good fight’ to help others wake-up and examine their own social skills and how they “do what they do.” There is alot to it. If you examine the interactions and or lack of interactions of the Autistic Mind. It SHINES a light on some things untapped in you. How you can step out of the trap . The trap of constantly idolizing and fantasizing about the perfection people are trying to sell to you. The elusive item all seem to crave. The pedestal not worth fighting for…because we all know what goes up must come down! Literally.
Tags: Autism, autism-friendly, autismhwy.com, autistic mind, brain-styles awareness, edwards, highly emotional thinking, nuero-typical, pedestals, perfect, reality tv, schwarzenegger, social skills, spitzer, underdog, weiner
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WRITTEN BY JAN BEAVER COAD from the 1st AutismHWY Chalk Festival!
My new friend Ezekial was quite the artist and shared my love of lavender and helped paint my puzzle piece. Armand came out and connected with resources for a local conference. It was great to visit with some Facebook friends and connect with them in person.
Creative JJ’s Jewelry was a HUGE hit!
It’s been a fun day!
Tags: Autism, chalk festival, community event, fun
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