We all have them everyday in life. Big ones and little ones. Happy and sad moments, moments ripe with epic wins and moments rife with epic loss. Life is “full of it!” ALL of it. Being human is extremely hard, at times it can be easy but, most often it is a big and wonderful mess. Life is never exactly what you expect and that is truly by design! People that believe they can control life and package it into a neat little bowed box, have a reality check coming. Even if they do get life all boxed up nicely…what comes next? Do we just admire it from the outside enjoying the pretty packaging with bow while we dismiss the beauty held tightly within?
NO. I didn’t think so.
We rip into life. Don’t we? We toss the bow off to the side. Some ‘Aha moments’ are quite profound and or ironic. Like that one. Especially so, when these high vibrating moments of complete recognition are triggered during the difficult challenges we all face here on earth. What universally gets us all through these human difficulties? The power of ingenuity, the mother of invention: our inner knowing. When we tap into knowledge and strengths we are all innately born with, we enable ourselves to progress. Sometimes those progressions come in gradual steps with supports and at other times they come more quickly on their own. When we truly believe in ourselves we find the things we are looking for within, not with-out. Our natural flow of knowledge and cellular memories living and breathing for decades within our ancestors, exists within our own DNA. Percolate on that last sentence. It’s generationally deep. It’s a big Aha!
Now tap into that.
That is magic. You were actually born with instincts. Our human ‘knowing.’ This world so full of it’s natural genetically coded wonder is even more amazing than our physical structures and minds can comprehend. Everything has a patterned generating instinct. For me THAT is the “Aha”…that the natural world and our natural selves are the moment. That we should be living more instinctually with less second guessings. We are coded to know. We mustn’t let the words and ideas of others cause us to doubt our knowing. These moments of perfection people are molded into thinking they need and told to wait for, milestones we pressure ourselves and others to strive for; the so-called “someday”… when your life is where you want it to be; your career, your bank account, the perfect relationship, the perfect child. What we are not realizing early enough in our lives, is that the perfect moment IS~NOW. We should not be waiting for things to get better, be ready, or become more suitable. The time to live is NOW. Life is perfect despite imperfection. Your goals will happen in your time NOT the goals and times dictated to you by others. Aha!
Don’t put off living…
Know that life must be lived fully each day. These ‘now are the moment ideals’ I hold, are what kicked in for me and my little family’s life in 2002, when my second son Wyatt was diagnosed as severely (their word, not mine) Autistic, when his speech and language dropped away at age 3. I didn’t decide to put living our lives off until speech therapy returned his ability to speak words. I did not stop knowing how deeply he loved me or how intelligent he was because he was no longer speaking the words. I did not decide to feel devastated about this change in our lives natural path. I didn’t allow doubters to shake my knowledge of who my son is. Ideas of perfection were never my goal. Our lives are miracles and that is where we started and where we will finish. Aha!
Don’t allow others to dictate your moments…
An unfunny thing happens to parents of newly diagnosed Autistic children. They are told they do not understand their own children. They are continually made to second-guess their inner knowing and because of this they may not follow their instincts. They may turn all of their good parental sense into doubt. PLEASE do not allow this to happen. Do not allow anyone into that sacred heart space you share with your child. You know who you are and you know who the child you gave life to is. THAT is your instinctual DNA. Do not allow people and professionals to dissuade you from what you know in your bones. Your child is bright and intact no matter if they communicate with words or with actions or with the turn of a head. Please resist the doubt and fear people inject you with. They will market fear to you in order to turn around and sell you safety. Do not be bought and sold like that.
Do not buy into self-doubt, do not sell your child out. Ahaha!
LIVE. In the moments.