Posts Tagged ‘rose colored glasses’

A Darker Shade of Rose

Written by kelly on 11 January 2013

LOVE Taps???

As Wyatt grows into a young man it was bound to happen. My rose-colored specs would grow wiser and yes, darker. If you have ever happened upon this blog then you know I have an exuberance for life and all things Autism. Some may say an ’unrealistic exuberance’ but, I say that ‘u.e.’ doesn’t exist. IF you are exuberant about something, you believe in it wholeheartedly. I believe in Autism and I am not unrealistic about it. I live with it as an outsider looking in. I feel it empathetically, I watch it’s every move, but I don’t experience it. That is Wyatt’s forte. His experience that I study and learn from. I learn for him and I learn for me. I learn for my day to day life, I learn for the culture and the world that we live in. It is my duty. Honestly, I believe it is all of our duties!

The energy that is life, is contained and expressed in so many differing ways by each unique person. People have no groundwork on people. No one understands the basic framework we all operate under and how the working parts may differ and translate this world. Physically, chemically, electrically and emotionally. Making “sense” of this is quite a delicate and combustible endeavor you must admit. Anything can go wrong and often does! People are amazing creatures and it’s time we researched ourselves….we should all be googling our own mind-body connections that create our behavior. Understand it and define it. OWN yourselves…mind and body. Recognize and understand who you are and how you feel and how that translates. You may be surprised where you find yourself fitting in. We are all on this spectrum of humanity and how we feel it the same and differently!

What I want all people to learn is that my son is exactly like any other person. That is the part that most people don’t understand about him or Autism in general. The Autistic person’s heart, mind and soul are always intact. Perceiving and sensing this world through a different wiring/processing system. Able to communicate in wide ranging ways. In varying degrees from A to Z. My son’s system I call his…[Autism priZm]… seems to bend the stimulus in ways that his system can receive it. He expresses those transmissions with the sounds and movements available and natural to him. Working on the HWY’s of his mind that are wired for traffic! Communicating in his way. At times a symphony or at times a storm of raw nerves. We try and adapt to each new day and these stimuli as they come. Using tools we have learned to relieve or harness this energy and funnel it productively. This lifestyle transforms us into quite the flexible team. I have been wearing these rose-colored glasses since long before Wyatt was born. It’s who I am, making me a solid choice to be this boy’s mother. Everyday he continues to challenge my resolve, my attention to detail and my deductive powers. He is my Autism mentor.

HWY to understanding!

Things can get dark…

Light and airy…..

Currently the onset of his teen years are playing havoc on his framework. He has surges of adrenaline and testosterone that his system has a hellish time translating. As if his blood is literally boiling through his veins. In these moments he ‘bangs it out’. How many of us rub, massage and press firmly (or even bang) on areas of discomfort we may have? When Wyatt has these phases of discomfort/frustration his system demands the same x 100 or x 1000… Make your own amplification to drown out your pain. It’s a common practice. It’s a ‘human thing’. We ourselves or family members all do the same in an array of techniques. Both positive and negative if we really look. People are blessed with a miraculous central nervous system. How each of us operates on that system and amplifies stimuli is what we need to tune in to. Why NOT do a little fine tuning people? Dial your mind and body into what is really going on within your framework . Understand your system and the differing systems of others…..All shades of rose are beautiful light, dark and everything in between. So put on your spectrum specs and get real!

People do what they do because of the way that they ‘feel’ !!

Tags: autism prism, autism teen yrs., autismhwy, kelly green, mind-body connection, rose colored glasses, sensory differences, What is Autism, wyatt green
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Too Much IS Enough!

Written by kelly on 17 January 2011

What a great big beautiful world we live in! It is such a blessing and a gift opening your eyes every morning, to whatever the weather may be. Our lives diagnosed or not are a precious GIFT. A gift we are given to appreciate and make the most of. To be creative with that which we have been given. So much of life’s lesson…is right there , in the proverbial nutshell. In my 49 yr. old mind I see so clearly how a person’s attitude in regard to this core issue of perception is at the root of it all. The power to allow HAPPINESS to rule the moment, day, week , month, year= in one’s LIFE!

It is a choice. Some people are happy to be discontented for many reasons…I see it as an excuse to wallow in pity. To not take action. So something that disheartens you…now owns you. Prevailing over the majority of moments? Today I was called Pollyanna~ish*!! By ‘the King of Funny Faces’!! Quite amusing. However, the King is right.!! When I was 19 I had a dear friend trying to appeal to me then…”I am going to rip those rose-colored glasses off your face and smash ‘em.” she said!! haha Well, 30 years later…guess I haven’t changed-much!!

I liked a comment I saw today regarding this glaring difference in people’s inherant natures. “What is the alternative to alot of optimism…misery? I choose optimism!! ” My thoughts exactly Heather E. Sedlock! thanks for that. Diagnosis or not as previously stated we are all spiritual creatures that thrive with a certain amount of upliftment and empowerment. I surround myself with people that encourage this mindset. No matter the problem or set-back you come across as you seek your perfect utopia… please, keep pushin’ with a smile. A negative mind set just creates more road-blocks and reasons for you to expect failure and feel constant discontent. No one has a perfect HWY to hoe. Remember that and, that encouragement can be a big pick me up. Everyone should own a pair of my glasses! It does’nt mean you need to wear them everyday! Honestly that would be impossible! All I am saying is, just knowing they are handy if you need them…will be a great comfort!

* Polly-anna: an excessively or persistently optimistic person!

You can hear that for yourself here in my ANCA Blogradio interview !http://www.blogtalkradio.com/autistic-people-/2011/01/09/autistic-people-people-first?a=y

Tags: anca blogradio, autimhwy, autism diagnosis, Heather E Sedlock, kelly green, king of funny faces, optimism, pollyanna, rose colored glasses
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“WHY…WY…Y ???”

Written by kelly on 23 August 2010

What the Mothers and Fathers of toddlers hear everyday!! What the Family & Friends of ASD Individuals wonder!! What ALOT of US wondered this past weekend upon viewing a hate filled facebook group masking as …hmmm COMEDY? ! All of the above …ladies and gentlemen, ALL of the above. Yes, life can be a “wonderland.” In good ways and bad ways. Being the mother of a boy with regressive AUTISM I really wonder somedays. Especially when things were going along ‘swimmingly’ and then the gradual regression. (In Wyatt’s case anyway.) Very PUZZLING!

Very puzzling indeed. This thing called AUTISM. & this thing called “Human Nature!”No I am not “Octo-mom”…just feels that way somedays. So with all the days “Normal Questions” that constantly barrage ASD to have to QUESTION Human Nature. Questioning how adults can post hatred for our different minded children.(?!!) Calling it Funny!! So hurtful and so cruel. Many of these mean- people~ are actually parents themselves. (?!) Soulless parents to some unlucky innocent children. “Why, Wy, Y” has rung in my ears and permeated my brain. Almost as if I had: 8~ 3 yr. olds asking me questions ALL DAY ! Individuals and Family members. It was VERY disheartening.

It shouldn’t surprise me. The world is unforgiving in so many ways. Yet, this just felt so wrong. It was an assault on my senses. Many of us had that “just got kicked in the gut” FEELING! Not nice! Talk about sensory issues. To think that SANE ADULTS could be laughing at and posting nastiness about innocent disabled kids?? It was an eye-opener. Some of these people say,” we should just ignore the fact that they are there reveling in their FILTH!!” In essence leave them alone and don’t JUDGE THEM! Gladly!

We can leave that to the “Big-Guy.” Our on-line AUTISM COMMUNITY is forever trying to pass on HOPE & KNOWLEDGE! I have a nice pair of “Rose-Colored” Glasses I wear while doing that. I Wish I could send them to the creators of this hateful group. Trouble is HATRED is Blinding. It has obviously affected all of these individuals EYE SIGHT ! So, my glasses would be wasted on them. Plus I NEED THEM! lol…

So back to the OG QUESTION…WHY? An astute friend told me that both sides of the “Hate / Love Equation” need to be experienced in order to make the choice to LOVE. Yes, I get that…but, what I will NEVER get is WHY the choice to HATE?!! I have said that Neuro-diversity needs to be CELEBRATED. Only this type of “Diversity” hadn’t even occurred to me. Perhaps, I am sheltered and Naive. Much like my son with AUTISM!!

Maybe we should just stay in our ROSE-COLORED Autism Bubble. Where HOPE and KNOWLEDGE rule. Running on the fuel of POSITIVITY!! Our wonderful on-line AUTISM Community of SANE Adults that don’t create web-pages to laugh at those less fortunate. I am beginning to wonder about the “social-skills” classes SO OFTEN pushed off on Autistics. Has anyone ever thought that perhaps… those classes are needed for the MAINSTREAM ?!! Skills that this hate filled group so sorely lack. The SKILL of being a loving and compassionate human being on our beautiful PLANET!!

Tags: ASD, Autism, autism community, autismhwy.com, comedy, disabled children, facebook, hate, human nature, mean people, puzzling, rose colored glasses, social skills
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Calm COOL Colors…

Written by kelly on 07 May 2010

Are the “New Black“! Is’nt that how the saying goes…when something is about to be in vogue?! Well AutismHWY has just declared a new viable way to calm our kids…COLOR THERAPY!! Seriously.I have been noticing it in one capacity or another for years. Now it is stunningly CLEAR to me! These kids so respond to color! How many of our kids love to drape fabrics over head? Viewing the world through their prism. Draping a buffer of color between them and the enviornment.

The last Easter egg hunt at Leroy Haynes School, Wyatt and I brought his “Parachute” game. So fun, to see the different play styles! Some of the students loved to be jumping and using the handles to flap the ‘chute up and down. While others chose to lie ” under the rainbow” feeling the wind and basquing in the reflecting colors of the canopy! Which they would have had no problem enjoying all~day!! Such a pleasure to see them all seek the sensory experience they preferred!

Alot of tents, forts,plastic cubes and play equipment. These kids often try to place a veil or shield between themselves and “Our BUSY World” Toning it down it seems. We know they have “Sensory Sensibilities and that they CANNOT tolerate flourescent lighting!! So why not try colored lightbulbs, colored lenses on glasses, colored glass for their bedroom windows!! Allison Dix’ Rainbow awareness to WHOLE new levels!!! I truly believe this is something everyone can consider and try. It certainly can’t hurt.

Lisa Bradshaw the brilliant speech therapist…(Leroy Haynes last free training provider) has imperical proof. Her son has had brain injuries since birth providing many challenges.Through the years her and husband Boyd Bradshaw have used great teamwork to help him through his many perplexing issues. She reports that her son wore PURPLE LENSES for two years! His choice. The ability to choose his color was empowering. Allowing him to wear the glasses and regulate as he deemed fit! AWESOME!!

Wearing the colored lenses was such a calming and effective thing for him!! After 2 years he just did not put them on anymore. He had self-regulated !! I have seen Wyatt use color in this fashion so many times!! Usually he chooses blue…I am curious what color your kids will choose!? Will they want it “Lit -up” or will they prefer it darker. I am quite sure that with all spectrum “issues”…EVERYONE is different. With varying degrees of ability or disability! Keeping us on “OUR TOES!”