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Today is International Peace Day! At AutismHWY we are truly all about Peace and Respect. Without understanding and respect for Autistic people of all ages at all stages we believe there will be a “peace delay.”

The sooner we can all respect Autism as a diverse way of being in life, the better. A way of being that requires new innovative human strategies for success! Ways to place us ALL on the peace train together!! Of course our PEACE…always involves pieces of CHALK and free expression! Love, Peace & Chalk to you ALL from the HWY!

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IMG_0627There is a profound PEACE that comes with being exactly who you are!0418151831IMG_0981What an amazing figure!!

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The Autism Secret Sauce

secretsauce That special blend…

that works for YOU and/or your Autistic loved one. That’s the Autism Secret Sauce. The secret is within each Autistic person. Understanding a person’s Autistic framework and building upon that throughout a lifetime is the HWY to success. For everyone. Making snap assumptions about what an Autistic child/adult thinks, feels and needs in life is not awesome sauce. Creating that specially blended life plan “scaffold” for someone MUST include that ‘someone.’ NO ifs, ands or buts. It’s non-negotiable. Their input should always be the main ingredient in the sauce. If a person is non speaking that is no excuse to exclude them. There are always many things to discern and include from people using alternate means of communication which are integral to the recipe. As in: do not make the sauce without them!

 

It’s NO SECRET…

that incessant quick judgments are made about every age and every stage of Autism and Autistic people. Especially those using speaking alternatives as communication. People like my son are labeled as severe, profound and maladapted, all words we reject. These judgments have been running rampantly amongst people and most tragically the presiding experts for decades. Years upon years of programs built upon inaccurate Autism belief systems have many of us treading water that is not deep enough to support healthy vessels. I am regularly informed by experts that my non-speaking Autistic teen has the mind of a 2 yr. old. They also believe he is intellectually impaired. I have learned to ignore this ridiculous belief that these “presumptive specialists” hold about my now 17 yr. old son. Sadly, it’s these damaging and commonly seen expert beliefs, that families buy into and quickly add to their “sauce.” Don’t use flawed recipes in life.

 

Trusting what others say…

about your Autistic loved one over what they “say” OR “communicate” to you is a mistake. A very big one. It’s a betrayal. Imagine yourself in the position of wanting to voice your thoughts and ideals only to be talked to as if you are a toddler. Imagine feeling as if everyone is “managing you” without you. You are watching a “play” of your own life and you do not have any lines. It’s not a nice thing to consider. Possibly why…no one ever seems to! Handing over your instinctual common sense to so-called “Autism experts” is what I deem the ’slippery slope sauce.’ The sauce that is more like quicksand…where things can go sour and have you sinking quickly! You must realize that your loved one’s instinctual knowing is supreme and where all of the power lies. Do not second guess what you already know. No matter who is asking you to. Presuming competence shapes healthy attitudes and lives across the board. For your Autistic loved one /client, in the dynamics of the family and beyond. Families would be wise to take this power stance!

 

As a culture we are moving away…

from being told how to think and feel. In 2016 we see physical manifestations of just how unhealthy that has been. Autistic people do not respond to those tactics, genetically. We find that beautifully refreshing and a in all actuality; a much more natural human way of being. When you communicate to a non speaking person that you believe the people speaking around them, more than you believe in them: it’s painful. Just imagine for a moment what you would do and how betrayed you would feel in that instance. Just because someone uses words, they are believed and trusted to be correct about someone else’s non-speaking reality.  When others assume things and speak for someone else day in and day out…that is not okay. It only stands to reason that some days there will be hell to pay because of it. Days that have nothing to do with “hormones.”

 

 

Finding the secret sauce…

for yourselves and those you love takes time and dedicated contemplation. It also takes a keen and unbiased perspective. Watch how a person’s musculature changes when they are feeling uncomfortable, triggered emotionally and or threatened. Anticipate comforting tactics in these very real instances. Apply these FOUR basic tenants completely to your loved ones and be unwaivering in your use of them. When you approach every moment understanding how important these 4 key components are things will shift naturally.

 

#1.) Emotional Clearance. Clear your emotional slate and be emotionally open and fully available to support your loved one.

#2.) Verbal Validations. Use the words which show you unequivocally support your distressed loved one and the physical and/or emotional pain they are currently experiencing!

#3.) Physical Supports. Decipher what these physical supports are, a chill zone space, cool water, diet, bathing in Epsom salts, taking a walk, protein snacks, deep pressured massage or tapping, trampoline activities or swinging for joint compression.
 
#4.) Commitment of Respect. The resolve that you will be there for your loved one no matter what happens. Without shame or guilt you will respect what they feel, sense and experience. It’s just that simple!

 

For my son: Dietary changes, epsom and eucalyptus infused baths, loads of cool water and towels, foot, back and head massage with pressurized tapping, melatonin and horseradish infused foods (keeping congestion away) are currently in the mix for his comfort blend. He has actively taught me with out words his entire life what he prefers. My astute Autistic friends experiential words seem to validate and buttress every instinct Wyatt directs me to follow and for us….

It's IN the SAUCE!!

It’s IN the SAUCE!!

THAT…IS the AWESOME SAUCE!!

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Chalking It Up with Cool Cats!

So energized from an amazing weekend at the Ventura Harbor! The Ventura Art and Street painting Festival that happens the 2nd weekend in September is becoming a favorite here at AutismHWY! It was our 3rd year participating in Ventura’s magnificent  8 year event. Fabulous people, Fabulous ART and the always fabulous California coastline. Truly a winning combination. Thank you to the organizers, sponsors and volunteers once again for putting on this great show!IMG_2726
Every year I participate in this event I have a mission to showcase the artwork created by an Autistic artist. In the past we have highlighted Nora Blansett HERE and Nele M. known as Tashi HERE
Beautiful Artists and ART! That’s what it is all about. This year I asked our colorful tour de force friend and Art Partner MaryEllen Szper of Flying Frog.com If we could take a crack at her colorful cat design!
Maryellen creates amazing Art all over her community of Cedar Key Florida. If you pass through there please stop at her amazing yard…Art studio/shop and make a purchase!
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You will find an abundance of generosity at each and every street painting party you stumble across! The energy felt is the heartfelt pulse of humanity that unfolds before your senses. Colorful, loving vibrations embedded into our planet. When we love the earth with our heART the EARTH loves us back. This art form IS truly transformative…ask anyone that has chalked a square anywhere! A feeling every community CAN easily replicate because our planet is brimming with talented people with amazing ways of expressing who they are and what they feel. It’s the essence of who we all are and it attracts people of any age at any stage! LOOK we even made the Ventura County Star Newspaper! What a gift!
Here is Maryellen’s original ‘Cool Cat’ design…
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And what emerged from the Ventura Harbor embankment…

GOOD~STUFF!!

GOOD~STUFF!!

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My favorite Cool cat!

Here I am with Wyatt my favorite Cool cat!

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We are all here to CO~CREATE. Just…Chalk that up to the Universe!

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Bee Happy!

The first Friday in September has become a traditional day for me to be chalking in Carpinteria! After having my Coloring Book Series highlighted at the former Curious Cup Bookstore there, this delightful town has embraced my heART! Readers of this blog will remember my previous art trips to “Carp” like the time I chalked Nekea Blagoev of Get Smashed Art‘s Ripcurl design HERE! OR the time I chalked a Carpinteria loving mermaid seen HERE! So much FUN to be under the sun and down on the street. As we have continually informed you here from AutismHWY… Chalk Art is addicting in a very colorful, peaceful and loving way!

 

We invite every city to free express within their communities. You should all try it sometime! Next weekend I will be chalking up a design created by MaryEllen Szper of Flying Frog.com at the fabulous Ventura Harbor. MaryEllen is an amazing artist, so wish me luck!

Here is my photo blog from Carpinteria’s “Chalk the Walk 2016″ My rendition of the photo I took, of a sunflower I grew! FUN :
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Wow. Sharing chalk art love in Carpinteria last night, The Ventura Art and Street Painting Festival in the weekend to follow with Vancouver and The ANCA World Autism Festival at the close of the month…definitely reasons to be and stay HAPPY. A Happy September it IS!

Now, spend 15 minutes to absorb this amazing talk filled with thought provoking concepts which support FUN…in order to truly BEE HAPPY! xo …

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